That's just a fact. Other than missing US culture and my friends immensely, there are other things that bug me in the UK and I am never really able to put my finger on it completely. I probably never completely will. Part of it is that I don't feel I can have the same career progression here, that it is still extremely male dominated in ways I was not expecting. I always thought Europe would me more progressive than the US, well, Europe might be, but England? Not so sure. Certainly not in my industry. I am reminded every day of that and jesus fucking Christ, I am really taking one for the team here. Literally.
A fellow blogger who I love to read, Metropolitan Mom, is moving from London to Sweden and I am going to quote something she writes, because when I read it my head was just nodding nodding nodding.
"I might have said something like ‘I should have never moved back’ a couple of times in the past years. Because facing London with a young family, raising kids as Londoners and offering them London as their moral benchmark has little appeal to me. It’s not only Mr Gove and his crude ideas of prolonged school days and book burning antics. What ticks me off goes beyond the failures of the NHS and the factor of luck in good health care. I disapprove of much more than mega rich Russians digging deep under entire neighbourhoods for the benefit of a private pool and a home cinema.
I don’t want my kids to grow up, believing that the poor, sick or elderly have to rely on charity to receive the help they need. As much as I admire all efforts that go into charitable work, I can’t help but think that as a society, we have failed if this is all we can do to support the weaker members of our communities.
I don’t believe in class systems, as much as I don’t believe in gender stereotyping. Both, inequality and social immobility in England have become more and more apparent to me the longer I have lived in London. My girls will inevitably grow up with this bullshit, believing it to be true and somehow right. It will become their norm. Well, it would have been."
I totally get it. I don't have kids, but I SO SO get this for myself and for others out there. So here is finally a little description that makes a lot of sense to me on why this country will never really work for me.
There are components of some of these things that are good! The NHS - as the core idea - is great. Healthcare of everyone is great. Unfortunately the NHS in this country is broken and yes, it is a factor of luck how you get treated and the quality of care you receive. So that's bullshit. I'd rather pay more money and not have to worry about "luck". But of course, the NHS at its core is a good thing.
The Benefits/Welfare system at its core is also a good thing. I often thought Germany went a bit too far when they reformed the German welfare system, but here in England, things are just so dire. And it is a constant cycle really.
You hear stories of people saying that it is better for them to stay on benefits than go to work. Obviously that shit and you don't want people to have that attitude, but to be honest, many areas of England are properly depressed, jobs aren't around by the bucketload and now think about that train ticket to London (45 minute ride) costs £40 during rush hour, I can see how some people get to the point where they say "Fuck it, this ain't working". Wages outside of London are ridiculously low, so low that you cannot afford NOT working in London despite the expensive cost of commuting. So there are a lot of things broken. At the core, is the Benefits system great just like the NHS, of course, but it is all so so broken.....I guess most countries battle with the same problems, don't they. The US does as well. of