Wait, say what?
I couldn't really believe what I had just heard? Us? We are fabulous, how would we EVER become invisible?
Fast forward a few years and I have to agree with her - to some degree.
It is true that in terms of marketing and media, women in their late 30s are a bit on their own. Give me one GREAT woman's magazine that targets women in their 40s. Wait, one that isn't talking about how to be a better wife or a better mommy or how to better cook a turkey while balancing husband, life and child?
There aren't really any. I do think "O" magazine fills a bit of that gap and I also absolutely adore the UK's "Red" Magazine. Both look at women as women first. Not as mothers, partners, wives, workers or cooks. And that is where the story lies a bit, isn't it? We start defining ourselves as something that we do, but not something that we are. First and foremost, we are and will always remain women (unless you want to be a man, which, hell, GO DO IT, LIFE IS SHORT). I think that is where we loose ourselves, that is where we try very hard to be the best mother, partner and what not that we forget to just be us. Frankly, just being a woman on its own isn't exactly a walk in the park.
I often think of that conversation. " I can't wait to become invisible" because I realized that I don't want that. I don't want to become invisible.....and then suddenly I started worrying about it, realizing that my level of attractiveness will fade, no matter what and that less people will hold doors open for me. It's almost as if, as a woman approaching 40, you better take out the red lipstick, become bolder, more confident, more yourself, just to be clear that we are here and we are loud and proud and definitely not invisible.
I never thought getting older would be something that would bug me and I am pretty determined to not let it bug me. The last year particularly, it seems I have lost myself more in the fear of getting older and that just needs to stop because, hey, that's not going to change. Time will continue to move forward and embracing all of it will be what is on the list of things to do.