The person I am? She's a bit of a slob. No really. She is. She is not a good housekeeper, she is not good at putting stuff away, she's not the best at keeping a tidy home, otherwise she is buckets full of fun though and a great friend with a good sense of humour, really laid back and loving. The person I am in my relationship? Well, all the good things above, the friend with humour and loving and sexy and all that, AND, SO much better regarding my housekeeping abilities.
And guess what, I actually ENJOY it that way. I enjoy coming home and seeing my dressing room actually, you know, looking like an adult human uses it:
Visible floor space instead of having 2 weeks worth of dresses all over the place. I enjoy that our living room table has room for my legs and feet and I don't have to move shit aside. I do love all that.
So there are some things that don't come natural to me, but that I am still really good at. At least for the slob I am :)
But then there are the deeply personal things that really scratch on your confidence that I struggle with. Boundary setting, standing up for myself and why is that? Mostly because of fear. Whether that fear is warranted or not, it is fear that usually holds us back. We know exactly what we should do or say, yet we hold back because we are afraid. I am afraid, but hey, I know there is more of us out there.
This will be the year of no fear or less fear and I have to try to be better at expressing what my needs are. Because as I always say, our wants are completely negotiable, but our needs are the ones we need to take care of.